Positive Discipline: The First Three Years: From Infant to Toddler--Laying the Foundation for Raising a Capable, Confident Child

Positive Discipline: The First Three Years: From Infant to Toddler--Laying the Foundation for Raising a Capable, Confident Child

Jane Nelsen Cheryl Erwin Roslyn Ann Duffy / Feb 20, 2020

Positive Discipline The First Three Years From Infant to Toddler Laying the Foundation for Raising a Capable Confident Child Make a Difference During the Most Important Years of Your Child s LifeThe months leading up to the birth of a child are filed with joy dreams plans and a few worries As a caring parent you want to

  • Title: Positive Discipline: The First Three Years: From Infant to Toddler--Laying the Foundation for Raising a Capable, Confident Child
  • Author: Jane Nelsen Cheryl Erwin Roslyn Ann Duffy
  • ISBN: 9780307341594
  • Page: 133
  • Format: Paperback
  • Make a Difference During the Most Important Years of Your Child s LifeThe months leading up to the birth of a child are filed with joy, dreams, plans and a few worries As a caring parent, you want to start your child out in life on the proper foundation But where do you go for the answers to such questions as How do I communicate with an infant who doesn t understand woMake a Difference During the Most Important Years of Your Child s LifeThe months leading up to the birth of a child are filed with joy, dreams, plans and a few worries As a caring parent, you want to start your child out in life on the proper foundation But where do you go for the answers to such questions as How do I communicate with an infant who doesn t understand words How can I effectively teach boundaries to my toddler Should I ever spank my child Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust Jane Nelsen s classic Positive Discipline series These books offer a commonsense approach to child rearing that so often is lacking in today s world In Positive Discipline The First Three Years, you ll learn how to use kind but firm support to raise a child who is both capable and confident You ll find practical solutions and solid advice on how to Encourage independence and exploration while providing appropriate boundaries Use non punitive methods to instill valuable social skills and positive behavior inside and outside the home Recognize when your child is ready to master the challenges of sleeping, eating, and potty training, and how to avoid the power struggles that often come with those lessons Identify your child s temperament Understand what the latest research in brain development tells us about raising healthy children And much, much Containing real life examples of challenges other parents and caregivers have faced, Positive Discipline The First Three Years is the one book that no parent should be without.

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      • Jane Nelsen Cheryl Erwin Roslyn Ann Duffy

        Dr Jane Nelsen is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in South Jordan, UT and Carlsbad, CA.She is the author and or coauthor of the Positive Discipline Series.


    326 Comments

    1. This book was great in parts, disappointing in others. Nothing new, really, but lots of good reminders of what is helpful and what is self-defeating in dealing with toddlers. I think the biggest disappointment for me about the book is the authors' apparent attitude toward childcare. They seemed to be advocating a child being in a high-quality childcare center over being at home with the mother. At the very least, they presented them as equally good choices. To me, this really discredits them. It [...]


    2. Positive Discipline's ideas and advice about raising children really feels right for me as a parent. Their most basic point is to have a consistent "kind but firm" manner when disciplining your child - kind to show that you validate their feelings and respect them as their own person, but firm to let them know you mean business. On a day to day level this approach really takes lots of patience, but when doing it, and seeing it work, it just feels right. Another strong point they make is that whe [...]


    3. It will make you think differently about your child's "misbehavior". The main theme of the book is that kids learn (and their brains develop) through exploration and play. Kids that seem like they are acting out or being bad when they hit or get into things are usually just exploring their bodies and their surroundings. They are developing ideas about what they are capable of. Kids need guidance with rules, but they can be taught good behaviors without punishment and actually turn out better dev [...]


    4. I had to stop when I got to the chapter on eating. Are these authors for real? This is an actual line in the book: "La Leche League suggests expressing (that is, pumping) breast milk into a bottles and freezing it (it looks like milky dishwater) . . .". Really??? Dishwater???? Goes on to say "keeping babies on the bottle or breast after they are ready to stop may squelch the first blossoming of their sense of autonomy.". Huh?? I'd like to meet a child that is forced to breastfeed after they are [...]


    5. This book says that any negative disciple will place self doubt and poor self esteem in kids. It does not recommend time out, spanking or saying NO. It tells to lead by example. For instance, if your child tries to play with the stereo, instead of saying no, redirect them to their toys, even if it takes 1,000 times. I don't have a toddler but I don't know very many people with the time or patience to do what this author says.


    6. Ch. 4: "A word about attachmentErik Erikson found that an infant's development of a sense of trust in the first year of life is directly related to a mother's sense of trust in herself."Ch. 5: TemperamentActivity levelRhythmicity - how consistent & predictable a child's eating, sleeping, bowel movementsApproach or withdrawalAdaptabilitySensory thresholdQuality of MoodIntensity of reactionsDistractibilityPersistence and attention spanCh. 9: Self Reliance & Confidence"Children under the ag [...]


    7. Why do I keep reading parenting books? I don't like them that much. I'm usually just reading to find someone who validates my own ideas about how I should parent--and I'll never find a perfect match, because nobody else has ever had my daughter. I know her best and I need to trust my intuition. So if I'm just going to tune out the parenting books as soon as they say something I don't already know, what's the point in reading them?!Stille I'm-almost-2-years-old-now-and-I'm-mad-that-you-don't-unde [...]


    8. The book was barely about discipline- there was really only one chapter about it, but it still had some good information and gets you to think more about your child's point of view before getting upset at them and about letting them be involved in what your doing and help them to become more independent by helping them find solutions to their problems with your prompting. I wish they provided more examples to show the discipline concepts they talked about. The beginning of the book referenced st [...]



    9. This book would get a higher rating if it weren't for some grossly inaccurate, misleading, and what I consider dangerous statements regarding nursing:It says "keeping babies on the bottle or breast after they are ready to stop may squelch the first blossoming of their sense of autonomy.". Really? I don't know about other kids, but you definitely can't keep mine at the breast if he doesn't want to be there. The book also notes to watch for signs of being ready to wean between 10-12 months, which [...]


    10. As with most parenting books, I got a few good ideas from this one but I have to give it one star because of the false information on breastfeeding/weaning and contradictory attitude toward sleep. Good stuff: Instead of 'NO' try to think of what you want your child to do instead. I have found this tip quite useful. Also the emphasis on offering choices (which of course I've seen elsewhere) is a good reminder - though it doesn't always go as neatly as the authors suggest. Bad Stuff: Um, no, your [...]


    11. I like this book. In fact, some of the strategies have helped already, such as redirection, distraction, turning tasks into a game (we picked up crayons so they could "hide" in the box) and just laughing together. I also like the info on the different types of temperaments, I thought there were only 3, difficult, medium, and easy. ha ha!My only beef with the book is the sleep chapter. It tells you that to be a good parent and show love you must let your children cry it out to sleep if they won't [...]


    12. I bought this book for my daughter who was expecting her first baby in February, but I read it before passing it on to her!The approach to child rearing in this book is EXCELLENT. It is based on creating trust and bonding. Its approach is, above all, one of respect. It aims at guiding a child towards independence and social skills. The goal of the Positive Discipline approach is to empower a child, at every stage, by making him/her feel loved and valued, by helping the child feel competent and c [...]


    13. Definitely one of the more reality-based parenting books I've read in that it's actively willing to acknowledge and engage with the idea that most parents aren't living the breastfeeding-til-preschool, stay-at-home-parent, organic-crunchy-Etsy-nursery ideal. Most parenting books take great pains to point out that this ideal and remind parents that if those ideals aren't being met, well, you're already behind the eight ball and you should really go and fix those things before trying to proceed fu [...]


    14. This is a discipline book that I feel I can actually implement daily. As a main point, it says to use a combination of kindness and firmness when disciplining your child, in all areas. It also emphasizes that I need to be aware of what my children are capable of understanding developmentally, and then tailor my approach. Also, it says that you can't force a child to do anything (eat, sleep, potty-train, etc.). Instead, kindly and firmly guide the child to decide to do those things on his own. Th [...]


    15. I enjoyed the Preschool version, and since I have a toddler too, figured I'd take a look at this one. Basically a retread, includes many passages verbatim from the Preschool version, plus some advice about newborns - perhaps that would be helpful for a new parent, but I skipped it. Also surprising that they recommend CIO and say that a 4 month old baby is "manipulating" you when they cry for you. Bad advice, IMO.


    16. This book is not what I expected. I wanted a book with a whole lot of hands on "do this, not this" sort of tips with a little bit of theory. This books is a WHOLE lot of theory (albeit, good theory), with the expectation that you'll figure out how to apply that theory.Maybe my brain is just slow these days.but I need it spelled out for me, not me left to draw conclusions.


    17. This book contains some fascinating observations from experts about how the mind of a child works. It also classifies nine temperaments, which were an especially interesting way to understand my child's behavior in certain situations. I'm taking away quite a few helpful ideas and tips!



    18. I was recommended this book from a friend after bemoaning the fact that I was getting attitude from my 13-month old, which seemed super young to me to start getting an attitude! But maybe he's just advanced. This book completely changed my perspective in how I approach him, which instead of saying "no no no!" is all about respecting your child as a person with their own desires and needs, setting appropriate goals, and making their space safe to explore and discover. By doing that (mostly by let [...]


    19. I found this book helpful after being forewarned about the breastfeeding misinformation and just disregarding that part. I liked the idea of “kind but firm” approach.I like how it explains the developmental reasons toddlers act the way they do. It makes sense that they are not intentionally naughty/disobedient at this age. Understanding she is exploring, that she does not have impulse control and knowing the normal progression of social skills helps me be realistic in what I can expect out o [...]


    20. InconsistentTheir whole basis for discipline with toddlers is that they are not intentionally trying to make your life miserable, they just can't control themselves. Except, apparently, when it comes to sleep training. Then you should just let them scream because they are just trying to manipulate you. This book was full of inconsistencies that just made me think they didn't know what they were talking about.


    21. Another parenting book that could have been a pamphlet - it did not offer as many concrete suggestions as I would have preferred. My opinion might have been different if I read it earlier than just before my son turned three, as most of it was practical and common sense.


    22. This book on early childhood discipline is written by marriage and family therapists, which gives it more a focus on social emotional growth than developmental milestones.



    23. Lots of good ideas here, but you'll have to dig through a ton of filler to get to them. Out of date perspective on breastfeeding.


    24. I agree wholeheartedly with much of what this book is conveying--the under-three set isn't "bad" when misbehaving but expressing emotions in experimental ways, in the only ways he or she knows, in ways that follow the example of adults, etcetera. The ways we've been dealing with things we don't want our just-turned-one-year-old to do is essentially what this book has suggested--redirecting, encouraging and such. While I can't say I've never yelled or said NO!, I try not to do so, and I believe s [...]


    25. I've been reading a lot of parenting books lately and I felt like this one was mostly in line with the other lines of thinking (Whole-Brain Child, Peaceful Parent Happy Siblings), but this book was so broad as to not really contribute anything new. Perhaps it is the broader philosophy on which the aforementioned books are based and that is why. I might recommend this to a brand-new parent who is looking for a general parenting approach, but generally I thought the material was so intuitive, comm [...]


    26. First, I want to say that this isn't really a discipline book, so if you're expecting that, you will likely be disappointed. The authors explain why discipline at such a young age is not only difficult, but frequently counterproductive, as the toddler is unlikely to grasp what you're saying or why they're being reprimanded. This book is really about understanding the different stages of development babies and toddlers go through, and then using that knowledge to help guide children toward approp [...]


    27. I actually found this book to be extremely helpful. As a parent of an infant and a toddler I sometimes find myself regretting how I handle a situation. Toddlers are exploring their independence and testing their boundaries which can make every task difficult. With this book I had a lot of "ah ha!" moments which really made me consider a lot of choices.I particularly liked the examples of how to understand my children. Toddlers typically don't understand commands they have not seen others perform [...]


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