How to Be an American Housewife

How to Be an American Housewife

Margaret Dilloway / Feb 23, 2020

How to Be an American Housewife A lively and surprising novel about a Japanese woman with a closely guarded secret the American daughter who strives to live up to her mother s standards and the rejuvenating power of forgiveness Ho

  • Title: How to Be an American Housewife
  • Author: Margaret Dilloway
  • ISBN: 9780399156373
  • Page: 214
  • Format: Hardcover
  • A lively and surprising novel about a Japanese woman with a closely guarded secret, the American daughter who strives to live up to her mother s standards, and the rejuvenating power of forgiveness How to Be an American Housewife is a novel about mothers and daughters, and the pull of tradition It tells the story of Shoko, a Japanese woman who married an American GI, andA lively and surprising novel about a Japanese woman with a closely guarded secret, the American daughter who strives to live up to her mother s standards, and the rejuvenating power of forgiveness How to Be an American Housewife is a novel about mothers and daughters, and the pull of tradition It tells the story of Shoko, a Japanese woman who married an American GI, and her grown daughter, Sue, a divorced mother whose life as an American housewife hasn t been what she d expected When illness prevents Shoko from traveling to Japan, she asks Sue to go in her place The trip reveals family secrets that change their lives in dramatic and unforeseen ways Offering an entertaining glimpse into American and Japanese family lives and their potent aspirations, this is a warm and engaging novel full of unexpected insight.

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    About "Margaret Dilloway"

      • Margaret Dilloway

        Margaret started writing in kindergarten, when she learned how Ever since then, she s used writing to work through problems and entertain Margaret writes books for children realistic and fantasy and adults women s fiction Her next novel, SUMMER OF A THOUSAND PIES, will be published in winter 2019 by Balzer Bray.She lives in San Diego with her family, two cats, and a big teddybear of a Goldendoodle named Gatsby, whose visage is featured in the MOMOTARO series.Her hobbies include performing long form improv, attempting to cook bake things, and dollhouse miniatures.Awards MOMOTARO XANDER AND THE LOST ISLAND OF MONSTERS Winner of the American Library Association s Asian Pacific American Librarian Honor Award THE CARE AND HANDLING OF ROSES WITH THORNS American Library Association s Literary Tastes Award for Best Women s Fiction


    1. No. This is not how you write a realistic, moving or compelling book.This was a fast read, and faster still once I decided to plow through it and get it over with. It lacked anything truly thought-provoking or original and the pidgin dialogue used by Shoko, the main character, was irritating and silly - the woman lived in the United States for over 50 years in a community of Caucasians with no other Japanese people around, she would not have this much broken English. I actually have an aunt from [...]

    2. In many ways, I am similar to the character of Suiko. We're both half Japanese and half Cacuasian with mothers who came to America well after WWII, we grew up speaking only English (and our mothers held off teaching us Japanese for the same reasons: fear of making us less than 100% comfortable with English and giving us disadvantages that "average" American kids would not have), took Japanese in college in the hopes of reconnecting with some lost piece of ourselves, and eventually went to Japan [...]

    3. This is really a chic-lit book with a soul embedded in realism. Entertaining and well written. A feel-good, heart-warming experience while getting to know a beautiful spirit.Everyone has a life-changing experience, including Shoko's husband, Charlie, and her son, Mike, when Shoko lands in ICU and must undergo a heart operation. From that moment on, nothing can be taken for granted anymore and forgiveness becomes the most important goal for Shoko.Three women, a mother(Shoko), her daughter(Sue) an [...]

    4. From the negative reviews this has received, my expectations were pretty low; however I actually did like it very much throughout. But then I am partial anyway to most of the authors who turn out these Asian culture treasures (Amy Tan, Lisa See, Gail Tsukiyami, etc.). Before I joined GR and my reading list expanded like the waistbands of the Japanese who come here and eat our American food, these authors made up about 75% of what I read. I don't know how I missed Margaret Dilloway, but I will de [...]

    5. This was the oldest book on my TBR (6/18/2012). I really liked it and flew through. Haven't done that in a while.I forgot to miss that joyful little girl until she was already grown up and gone.The person I used to be could have made only one choice; the grown-up Shoko might have made a different one. That was how life was. You only figured out the right thing after you were old.In Japan, if you want to have more, you eat it all. If you are done, leave a little food on your plate.To my other, th [...]

    6. I loved this book. Shoko is a beautiful young Japanese woman who, at the end of WWII marries an American GI stationed near her workplace. Her father agrees to this marriage, but not her younger brother. This becomes a source of pain for years afterward. The part of the book that touched me most was how difficult it was for Shoko to fit into her new way of life in a strange country. There was so much she didn't understand, so many things that were permanently etched on her heart and character tha [...]

    7. I'm surprised at all the four and five star ratings this book got. It just wasn't a very strong story, and the dark secret that the main character Shoko is hiding from her children is not very novel. I know that Dilloway's own mother was a first-generation Japanese immigrant, but I had a hard time buying the dialogue as spoken by Shoko. Fifty years in the U.S having raised children who speak perfect English and she still speaks in broken pidgin English? I grew up around the first-generation gran [...]

    8. This book could have been so much better, but it just fell flat and made me lose interest earlier on. I plowed through it hoping that it would get better, but it never did. The 12 year old daughter of Sue's was truly irritating - she didn't appeared to be like any other 12 year olds I've ever encountered. Also, Shoko, Sue's Japanese mother, in her 50 years of living in America, still spoke such stereo-typical English, was unrealistic. She never picked up using verbs or adverbs in her sentences? [...]

    9. This book is really lacking in moral standards. Just over halfway through I gave up reading it. It also doesn't have much credibility. For example, one character is a Mormon. The author mentions this character drinking tea in Japan, even though it is a well known fact that Mormons don't drink tea. Then the author focuses on the fact that caffeine is forbidden in his house. Caffeine is considered far less offensive than tea in Mormon culture. This is where the book loses credibility. The author a [...]

    10. It's odd to read two books in a row that feature How To pamphlets and assimilation. This may be the only time in my life when that happens, don't you think? The first book was the disappointing Mr Rosenblum Dreams In English and the second was How To Be An American Housewife by Margaret Dilloway. Second time's the charm apparently since Housewife was heavenly. Housewife is the story of a young Japanese bride who comes to America with her GI husband. Shoko comes of age during WWII and because of [...]

    11. I liked a lot of this book, but I only gave it two stars for two important reasons. One is that it had two stock characters that I dislike: the wise-beyond-her-years, confident child of a bewildered, shy single mother and the long-suffering, tolerant gay uncle/cousin/friend. Why do these two show up in so many books? The precocious twelve-year-old daughter somehow guided her mother through a foreign country, showed her PC acceptance of the gay uncle, and somehow convinced her great-uncle to forg [...]

    12. ~"NOW BE HAPPY. OK?"~This is a very kind book with a good ending. It something we not often meet in life and in fiction, too! I gulped it in less than two days not only due to the clear and simple style of writing, truthful dialogue and observations of life, but for I could clearly try on the shoes of being an immigrant in America, something I always felt is not as easy as it may seem to be. "When you marry and integrate with Americans, it is only natural not to have friends. Most American women [...]

    13. I went into reading this book with very mixed feelings. On one hand, I really wanted to read about what it would have been like for a Japanese wife one generation earlier than my generation in the United States written by somebody, like Margaret Dilloway, who had first hand knowledge (through her mother.)On the other hand, I cringe alot at books that address certain stereotypes without providing the detailed depth of knowledge about a situation.And in some ways, I think this book is both success [...]

    14. I was really eager to read this book, even requested it from the public library. I jumped right into it, and continued to be eager to read it, right through to the endbut not without wincing several times, rolling my eyes and turning down pages so I would be able to go back and find the things that bugged me. It's difficult to not criticize flaws in a book when everyone else seems to rave about it and I can't believe the issues I have with it weren't glaring to every reader!For starters, it's ju [...]

    15. This book was underwhelming and lackingbstance.A friend passed the book along to me because she knew my affinity for Japanese and American relations before and after WWII. This book seemed so promising and the initial reviews I saw were overwhelmingly positive. But I must say having forced myself to finish the book, I only like two things: the cover (thanks Penguin) and the snippets from the fictitious book How to Be an American Housewife which appear at the start of each chapter. It is only her [...]

    16. I read many books now from the perspective of the writing: is it good, are characters well developed, is the plot well executed, is the pace slow or fast? Reading How to Be an American Housewife from this place was very insightful, as I think it had a lot of potential to be a much better novel.The pacing is fast, and while I am a fan of writing that moves along at a good clip, there were many opportunities where I wish Dilloway had slowed down to set the scene more vividly. This book could easil [...]

    17. I thought this book was superb in layout, design, and of course, the somewhat based on true life story. Margaret Dilloway is the daughter of a Japanese woman who married a GI during WWII and emigrated to America. Some of the stories are true, and some are fiction, but the book over all is a tribute to her mother whose radiation weakened heart had problems that caused her death by the time the author was 20. The story is split into two parts: The Mother, " I had always been a disobedient girl"; a [...]

    18. This novel tells the story of Shoko, a Japanese woman who marries an American GI following World War II and returns with him to the United States to live, carrying a shameful secret with her. I really enjoyed the first half of the book, which is narrated by Shoko and tells of her early life in Japan and her subsequent move to the States and her struggle to acclimate and adjust to a new (and not entirely friendly) land. The second half of the book is narrated by Sue, Shoko's adult daughter, and t [...]

    19. A young Japanese girl living not far from Nagasaki during the bombing at the end of WWII later marries an Irish-American stationed in Japan. Not out of love but because this is her best choice, the person her father chose for her from a stack of photos.This novel includes wonderful quotes, advice from the fictitious book How to be an American Housewife. But it is really a story about family, secrets, assimilation and alienation, about forgiveness.I love reading about cultures other than my own a [...]

    20. I have always frowned upon American G.I.'s marrying foreign women and bringing them back. Too many of those women seduce or coerce or manipulate their way over here. There are some cases tho, in which the G.I. has his eyes wide open so even tho, I don't think these people are marrying for the right reasons (love), whatever floats their boat However, my bias did not get in the way of my enjoying this story. I was able to see and understand the other side of the bargain, in this case, Shoko's.To r [...]

    21. I really enjoyed this book. I recommended it for my book club - it seemed like the perfect summer book club book. It definitely delivered. I found it so easy to read, and I really enjoyed the characters and the stories of the main characters, Shoko and Sue. The book was interspersed with excerpts from a how-to guide created for WWII Japanese brides in America. I found those excerpts so interesting and eye-opening. This was a book that was enjoyable, emotional, and yet light and easy to read. Fou [...]

    22. Very rarely does a book so profoundly sit with me. More than once while reading this book I could actually see my Grandma doing these exact things. It was so eye opening to read about the struggles she felt after coming to the states. Tears were shed but because of the memories it evoked in me. Beautifully written, I loved how both mother and daughter got parts of the book.

    23. So first I must admit, I love a good historical piece story. This one was from world war II from the nuclear bomb in Japan to present day. I loved all the popular products used growing up in America! And the stories reveals the prejudice views of people of Japanese and Americans as well as what the children of these blended families went through! I especially liked the little tidbits of information on the handbook, How to be an American Housewife. Some made me giggle like don't get fat husbands [...]

    24. Three hundred pages later: I don't know what I was expecting.This book has a HUGE build-up towards the daughter (Suiko) of the first protagonist to possibly be rejected from her mission. The mother character (Shoko) keeps repeating fear that her brother would turn away Suiko at the door while she, herself, is on her sickbed, unable to go. Throughout the book, we're shown many flashbacks about how the brother character (Taro) was so spiteful towards Americans during World War II, specifically pic [...]

    25. I started Margaret Dilloway’s How To Be An American Housewife just before bed last week, distracted by my busy day and unable to calm my worried mind enough to sleep. From the opening sentence, I was surprised at how quickly I sunk into this beautiful, lyrical story — and how enchanted with Dilloway’s world I became. I didn’t put the book down again until 2 a.m. — and only when my eyes were literally shutting.In this novel centering around identity, growth, healing and motherhood, our [...]

    26. Being a fourth generation Japanese American, I am always drawn to novels that share the immigrant experience and reveal the experiences of the assimilation process. In this book How to Be an American Housewife, the author shares a tender tale about a Japanese immigrant woman named Shoko who marries an American GI shortly after WWII and emigrates to the United States. Much of the story is revealed through Shoko’s relationship with her own daughter Sue, and the story juxtaposes between their dif [...]

    27. I so enjoyed reading this book. I was excited when it initially arrived. The premise was pretty novel to me, when you have been reading for a number of years it is hard to find a topic that feel new. How to e an American Housewife delivers.Shoko, a Japanese woman who married an American in the Navy at the end of World War Two tells us her story in such an interesting fashion. I don't know anything about Japanese culture so, I cannot say how truly authentic this book would feel for someone of tha [...]

    28. From My Blog[return][return]How To Be An American Housewife by Margaret Dilloway is a beautiful story of love, family and traditions encompassing four generations of women. The novel is told through the beautiful voice of Shoko who takes the reader through her life in Japan, her culture, heritage and how she came to be an American wife of a naval officer. The novel tells of her daughter Suiko and her daughter Helena, who at Shoko’s request, travel to Japan, a culture Suiko “Sue” never iden [...]

    29. I think this was more of a 3.5. It was really hard for me to decide on a rating because even after reading the book I couldn't really decide if I had liked the book or not. In all, it was a really easy read. From the beginning it was hard to put the book down once I started. That said, Dilloway did a beautiful job in keeping her readers captivated with the mother-daughter relationship between Sue and Shoko and taking us into the lives of the Japanese during WWII. It is hard to imagine just how d [...]

    30. This is my favourite novel I have read in the New Year. Margaret Dilloway has used fiction to explore the experiences of her mother and her Japanese heritage. In doing so, she has created a book that is emotionally engaging,powerfully heartfelt and entertaining. From the beginning this book captivated me. I wanted to know more about the two alternating stories, one of a Japanese mother and her life before and after moving to America and the other of her daughter and her life growing up in the US [...]

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